How To Deal With Broken Heart

Love is such a wonderful thing in this world we live in but sometimes things don’t work out very well for everyone and you have to break up with that special someone because things aren’t working out and you have to move on. Dealing with this process before and after the breakup is very hard for everyone therefore today you will learn some good tips on how to deal with a bad break up after having invested your time in a significant other for so long in your life.

Vent your feelings to your friends and family

Sometimes the best thing to do to get over a breakup is to talk about it with friends and family and use that to help get over the experience. Talk to your friends and family about your troubles since the break up, how you felt, how you still feel currently and simply go from there and ask their advice on things to do next emotionally and how to handle the situation when dating even in the future.

Spend time doing your favorite hobbies and activities

Some good ways to handle your breakup is to spend time doing your favorite hobbies and doing other things you enjoy doing for fun. Focus on your favorite things you mainly like to do and remember why you like doing these things in the first place and immerse yourself in them completely to maximize the experience of coping with your breakup.

Don’t dwell on the past and what you could have done differently

And finally the last tip is to not dwell on the past and don’t focus too much on the breakup itself and the events that led up to it. Of course you can’t completely forget and stop thinking about your previous partner and what you could have done differently to prevent the breakup. But remember to not beat yourself up about it too much and to do your best to move on from the negative experience and try even now to learn from the experience and use this bad experience with your previous partner to figure out what you’ll do differently and essential turn the experience into a positive experience for you to utilize.

That’s essentially the top tips on how to deal with a bad breakup. Life isn’t always easy and simple with positive good outcomes but learning from your mistakes and other peoples mistakes and mishaps is apart of living life and as long as you keep a positive attitude and open mind you’ll feel like you can do anything in the face of any depression and negative state you may be in temporarily after breaking up with a previous loved one. So keep your head up high and try your best next time to make the next loved one work out more and be a better experience upon dating for you both.

 

Common Mistakes When In Relationship

The dating world can be extremely exciting, however it can also be daunting and a lot of work. More than in any other realm, we would be wise to use our intuition and our observing self. If we don’t, we risk ending up one of the many couples who separate, end in divorce or even just in loveless marriages.

Many times, we choose to ignore the red flags that pop up in a relationship. We might ignore something about this person that is potentially emotionally dangerous or unhealthy, but if the red flags are ignored and the relationship continues, then most assuredly the relationship will be tumultuous or even disastrous. And, many people who end up divorced acknowledge that they noticed these red flags early on, however they chose to ignore the warning signs, and then the issues became larger.

According to Urban Dictionary, a red flag is a warning of any impending danger. Have you noticed any of the below about your partner, and perhaps chosen to ignore it?

Is/does your partner…
• Emotionally or physically unavailable?

• Have too much tension?

• Tend to get angry easily?

• Drink more than you are comfortable with?

• Treat you disrespectfully, i.e. with derision, sarcasm, silence, or with disrespect for your feelings and needs?

• Not prioritize you in the relationship?

• Have other compulsive or addictive behaviors, including gambling, excessive porn, shopping, and compulsive spending?

• Not able to own up to their part in an argument?

• Not have similar values?

• Not share similar approaches to child-rearing, money, or social engagements (for instance, if your current partner never wants to leave home, but you want to travel the world… )

We often believe that many of these issues can be worked on, or that the person will change (with our help and guidance), however if a person is already exhibiting worrying behaviors even before the wedding or union, then most likely, these behaviors will continue afterwards, also.

Sunk Costs:

One psychological trick that we play on ourselves is our continued thinking of “well, we’ve been together for five years. All of that time will be wasted if I break up with her now.” Not true! More time will be “wasted” if you get married, and then end up divorced after five additional years. And, moreover, there is no such thing as wasted time in terms of your heart. Each relationship is a learning process, and if you have learned to recognize what it is that you do want from another person, then you can take that knowledge into your next relationship.

 

Guide To Choose The Right Movie For Dating

First dates are right up there with international espionage in terms of anxiety and frustration. What’s worse is that one of the things we decide to do for a first date is that we choose to spend time with someone we like, we choose one of the many movies out now, sit in a dark, giant room with a bunch of other strangers, and say nothing for almost two hours. Epic fail.

But if you are really both OK with going to a movie for a first date, you need to think about ways to avoid mistakes so that there will hopefully be a second date. In fact, the movie can be a real game-changer because you may not have a ton to talk about, so talking about the movie can be a relief.

Here are a few tips to take into consideration when trying to pick the right movie for your first date:

1. Don’t watch a movie with a lot of excessive violence or adult themes. The last thing you want to do is make your date think that this is a representation of who you are. It’s never a good look, and regardless of the spin you try to put on it, it just comes off as bad taste.

2. On the other hand, avoid movies whose intended audience is one digit. If there is one thing that most people do not want to be privy to is a date in a state of arrested development. You’re both adults, and you want to be sure you choose a movie that at least acknowledges that maturity.

3. Be weary of romantic comedies. Many people consider these movies to be fool-proof, but be warned — unless you have a sense of the type of discourse and conversation you’d like to have with your date, you may be opening up the proverbial Pandora’s box of first-date poison.

4. If you plan on incorporating dinner at some point, why not try going to a dine-in theater that not only has a great movie-watching environment but also has gourmet food and adult libations on tap? This way, you avoid perhaps the most cardinal of first-date rules — don’t be late to anything.

5. Always have a back-up plan ready. No one wants to think about it, but unfortunately, things go wrong on dates, but having a good attitude that can both diffuse a tough situation and show a spontaneity can get things back on track. Have a couple of movies to choose from in case one is sold-out. If you do happen up upon your local dine-in theater and your meal isn’t exactly right (and barring reasons based on allergies), take it in stride, eat heartily, and discuss the matter with management after the movie.

All told, the movies out right now provide a wide array of movie-watching experiences. You really can’t lose picking any one of them. In order to pick the best one for your first date, though, you just need a little confidence, a little research, and a strong desire to step up your game.

 

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How To Get Away With Friendzone

How often have you spent weeks, or even months talking to that particular girl you like, then working up the courage to finally ask her out, only to hear those dreadful words:

“Oh, you’re so sweet, but I don’t really see you in that way. I only like you as a friend… “

When you hear that, it’s as if she has reached deep inside of your chest and ripped out your heart!

Hurts, doesn’t it?

Here are the biggest mistakes that men make and that you should avoid doing:

1 – They never tell the girls their true intentions!

This is the most common reason why guys eventually get friend zoned.

They like the girl; they want to go on a date with her, have fun, sleep with her, and eventually start a relationship. But they’re so afraid of rejection that they always skirt around the issue, never clearly stating what they want and letting the girl know that they actually like her romantically!

You must understand that rejection is a part of life and that no matter what you do – not everyone’s going to like you.

That’s why it’s always best to let the girl know that you’re interested in her romantically, and that you’d like to go on a date with her.

If she says yes – great! If she says no – at least you know where you stand with her, and you can move on, saving yourself a lot of time!

2 – They treat her like a princess!

If you never disagree with the girl, never express your own opinion, always feign interest in the topics that she brings up, even if they don’t interest you – the girl will notice this and won’t respect you.

If you’re constantly afraid of offending the girl or making her angry, always “walking on eggshells” so to speak – she’ll see that you are a spineless guy and lose all attraction towards you.

That’s exactly why “Bad Boys” get to have all the fun, while “Nice Guys” are left behind in the dust.

Bad Boys don’t fear rejection, aren’t afraid of offending people, of living life, of judgment from others. They don’t give a rat’s behind about what anyone thinks of them and they don’t filter their thoughts when they speak – they tell it like it is.

That is incredibly attractive to the vast majority of women, and exactly the reason why most girls fall for these so-called “rebels”.

3 – They constantly doubt themselves!

Self-doubt is one of the most unattractive qualities that a man can possess.

If you can’t make decisions, question your every move, hesitate when talking to the girl, touching her, leading her, and other similar things – you’re not going to get anywhere!

Women don’t like guys who are wracked with insecurities and self-esteem issues. It’s best that you learn how to get those things handled!

4 – They bore women half to death!

This is another huge mistake that most men make.

When talking to girls, they start asking all the boring, and uninspired questions like “Where are you from?”, “What do you do?”, “Where did you study?”, and so on and so forth.

Every girl has heard these questions a hundred times! You’re there to flirt, have a fun, interesting, and exciting conversation with her – and not to conduct an interview!

Refrain from asking the things that a thousand other guys have asked her – and learn some much-needed social skills that spice up a conversation. Skills like storytelling, joke telling, teasing, flirting, spiking emotions, etc.

Give her a reason to want to go on a date with you! Don’t bore her to death and show that you’re both going to have a fun time if she accepts your invitation!

If you follow this advice and always make your intentions clear, you’ll never land in the friend zone!

At worst, you’ll get rejected and know where you stand with her. Then you can quickly move on to another girl and stop wasting time!

Good luck!